Just as Goethe said that anger clouds reasoning, one must understand that anger can be a destructive force when actions that are taken are not thought through. It is imperative that one finds techniques by which by he/ she can control his anger, and this requires a conscious decision to divert one’s attention from thoughts that create anger internally while also avoiding external circumstances that can incite anger as well.
Here are some techniques that should help you control your anger both internally and externally as well:
1) Since anger is a long-term habit, one must determine to remain calm in the midst of triggers in order to change his behavior from reaction to a response. This takes work but just being aware of your anger can help you avoid it.
2) If the source of your anger is based on what someone said, it is important to communicate what you feel with the person who has angered you. However, you should choose to communicate in a calm manner where reasoning is given precedence over emotion.
3) Sometimes, removing yourself from the scene is much better than rushing in with a response that will resemble a reaction more than anything else. A few hours away can bring things back into perspective after which you proceed to respond to the situation at hand. A little time for yourself regularly perhaps in meditation helps you to relax the mind.
4) Finally, as anger is rooted in fear, the source of negativity, it is important to view the potentially threatening situation in a negative light. Try and take a balanced view of the situation by choosing to look at the positive as well.
